Hansei Kei (Self Reflection) in Konichiwa's cafe Solo

Continuing self reflection that not running well in pork small resto, I moved to continue the next place to cafe. I went to check the cafe in Slamet Riyadi street. Driving around Slamet Riyadi street which is Solo main street , found many cafe around the street that paraleled with train rail. It is unique view when  the train was moving parallel to the vehicles passing on this road. It additional interesting view from the cafe in this location.

Enjoy drinking coffe, I start review my life . My memory send from my childhood that draw the "competition" between my grandma (mother of papa) with my mother. I remember the sounf of glass and glass plate when my grandma visited us. My grandma said "Grew up faster so you can visit me because your mam not like me." I confused why my mom did not like my grandma. Now I understand it was woman competition between them. It was a reason why my ex fiance csncelled our engagement.

My ex fiance said. "I am ready to compete with all women in the world except your mother."

It was a point that will be clarified.

Tommorow morning my mam phone me , she told me that she mad with my wife. It is strange for me because my wife is her choice and in this case I followed her choice. I asked her " Why my mom hate my wife ? Maybe whoever my wife will be her competitor?" My mom said "Yes"

It is the problem.

In Practical Problem Solving (Toyota's tool) one important step is determine the problem clearly.

It is about the feeling!

The feeling could not be judged or considered with make sense or not, funny or not, right or wrong, fair or unfair, logical or not! Considered the feeling as a feeling not logic thinking!